Inner Child Healing

Inner Child Healing is a powerful healing and therapeutic technique to overcome dysfunctional childhood patterns and baggage of pain, sorrow or trauma.

What is the Inner Child?

Each one of us, has two archetypal personalities, The Adult and the Child. The Inner Child or our emotional self is our childlike aspect. It brings out our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity, playfulness and creativity.

The Child

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From childish to childlike–longing for the innocent and playfulness, regardless of age.

The Child also establishes our perceptions of life, safety, nurture, loyalty, and family. Its many aspects include the Wounded Child, Abandoned or Orphan Child, Dependent, Innocent, Nature, and Divine Child.

Core issue of all the Child archetypes is dependency vs. responsibility: when to take responsibility, when to have a healthy dependency, when to stand up to the group, and when to embrace communal life.

Signs of Inner Child Issues: Most of our behavioural problems and triggers have origin is memories of early childhood, even teenage.

  • Low self-esteem
  • Low self confidence
  • Fear of authority figures
  • Relationships issues
  • Aggression or Submissive or fearful nature, Control issues, all comes from childhood experiences with primary and secondary caregivers. Besides these obvious trauma like emotional, physical and sexual abuse can also be effectively healed through Inner Child Healing.

The Wounded Child

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Holds the memories of abuse, neglect, and other traumas that we have endured during childhood. May blame the relationship with their parents for all their subsequent dysfunctional relationships.

On the positive side, the painful experiences of the Wounded Child often awaken a deep sense of compassion and a desire to help other Wounded Children. From a spiritual perspective, a wounded childhood cracks open the learning path of forgiveness. Also often the Wounded healer archetype begins with the wounded child.

Self-pity, a tendency to blame our parents for any current shortcomings and to resist moving on through forgiveness. It may also lead us to seek out parental figures in all difficult situations rather than relying on our own resourcefulness.

• An inability to get out of the pains of childhood
• A tendency to always seek out parental figures
• A tendency to fantasize about the childhood that could have or should have been – “What if..?”

 

Majority of so-called adults are not truly adults at all. Only older. As they are being constantly influenced or covertly controlled by this unconscious inner child. An emotionally wounded inner child inhabits an adult body.

Growing up, the inner child is denied, neglected, shamed, Abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to “grow up,” putting childish things aside. Thus all the positive qualities are lost.

The inner child is also wounded during childhood traumas, physical, emotional, mental and sexual abuse. As it holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers.

Wounded, unhealed inner child can show up as destructive behaviour:

• Over ambitious or workaholic. Inability to sustain relationship or have healthy ones

Subtle self-sabotage and self-defeating patterns to

• Passive hostility

• Severe self-destructive symptoms: violent aggression and, sometimes, evil deeds.

• Destructive behaviour in adults often bears the impetuous, impulsive quality of childish petulance or narcissistic temper tantrums. Or an infantile neediness, dependency, and dread of abandonment.

• Irresponsibility and angry refusal to be an adult: the “Peter Pan syndrome,” or what Jungians refer to as a puer or puella complex. The archetypal Jungian notion of the puer aeternus (male) or (female) puella aeterna–the eternal child.

Can a child have a mature relationship? A career? An independent life?

Yet it is demanded to, and fails. An unhealed inner child makes us feel Anxious, Afraid, Insecure, Inferior, Small, Lost, Lonely and unloved. Though healing is possible. Those needs not fulfilled by our imperfect parents or caretakers need to examined and analysed.

We just can’t ‘get over ‘past traumas, sadness, disappointments and depression cannot be changed and must be accepted. Authentic adulthood requires both accepting the painful past and the primary responsibility for taking care of that inner child’s needs.

To acknowledge, accept, and take responsibility for our feelings, choices, loving and re-parenting our own inner child. These means providing discipline, limits, boundaries and structure, along with support, nurturance, acceptance, and indeed unconditional love.

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Freedom from past is POSSIBLE

Freeing ourselves from our past traumas through emotional and inner child healing, we start healing our negative interpretations of childhood traumas or maladjustments due to them, like survival mechanisms, defensiveness and aggressive traits no longer needed.

Gradually we begin to acknowledge, accept and thus heal our dark impulses, compulsive habits; fears, our self destructive and self sabotaging shadow traits and self beliefs, and thus we step into our light.

Isn’t it acceptance we are all looking for? And expression of unconditional love. When we begin to lovingly embrace all that we are, we merge all our fragments into ourselves. Self-acceptance brings about this change grows into self-love. A love that shows up in loving choices we make for ourselves.

This is the journey to wholeness, to complete integration or yoga.

Without confronting our shadow side we remain in the illusion that we only have light filled traits and no shadow traits. Only to be reminded of them again and again, in the people, events and traits, we encounter and get triggered by repeatedly. Our irritations and repeated hurts are the wounds life is reminding us to heal.

Only then do we get to experience inner freedom and also our true light. Peace and joy are clear by products. We are all here to awaken. Everything in our life is designed to awaken us.

Do I need Inner Child Healing?

Watch a talk on Adverse Childhood Experiences

and then take the following ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Quiz: Click here

Three Types of ACEs

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Source: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention; Credit: Robert Wood Johnson Foundation

Other Sources of Stress

ACEs Increase Health Risks

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According to the Adverse Childhood Experiences — ACE — study, the rougher your childhood, the higher your score is likely to be and the higher your risk for various health problems later.

Take the ACE Quiz – But Learn What It Does and Doesn’t Mean

Healing Our Inner Child:

• Dialoguing with the Wounded Child

• Trauma release

• Reprogramming

• Learning Self-nurturing tools

• Learning reparenting

Inner Child Healing process:

In Inner child Healing through a guided meditation, we visit key childhood memories in the Subconscious mind that formed your personality, and it’s problems.
 In  age regression, we release the stored hurt and emotions and reprogram dysfunctional or harmful beliefs. Thus we unlock the origin story of such behavioral patterns and begin to heal.

HOW SHOULD YOU PREPARE?

1. Meditate. Contemplate about your journey so far.
2. In a notebook, please note down key events of your life, chronologically. So you can understand the developing story of your life.
3. Make sure you mention any traumatic memories, of abuse, emotional, physical or sexual. Event that has impacted you greatly, so we don’t miss any important one.
4. Also contemplate on the key patterns you feel you are carrying from childhood. Fears, self-doubt, low self esteem or anxiety etc.
5. Issue, problems and dysfunctions that show up in your relationships. Past or current. Personal or at Workplace.
6. Be as open and candid as you can. Whatever you share always remains confidential. However, if you feel there are a few things, you want to keep secret and don’t want want to share, that’s OK, we respect that too. Share whatever you are comfortable with.
7. Share the notes prior to the session, so the therapist can study and plan your session accordingly to your specific requirements. Or bring along your notes if it is a physical session.

Need help or Healing?

Book a session: Whatsapp or message us with your issues and story in detail at 9810206203, or mail us at innerjourneys11@gmail.com.

Duration: 3 hours.

Fee: Rs 6000 per session

You can choose between 11 am or 2:30/3 pm slot, Monday to Saturday. Subject to availability. So book 2-3 days in advance.

Or you can opt for Zoom video call or phone session, equally effective.

innerjourneys11@gmail.com

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