Have you undergone Trauma, growing up or later in life? Did you grow up in a household where there was aggression, constant fights, depression, poverty, mental illness, addiction, absence, death, neglect, scarcity? Narsicisstic abuse like diminishing, Gaslighting, humiliation, manipulation, bullying, ridicule. Physical, mental or sexual abuse or excessive control in the name of discipline?
Are you a high functioning individual but underneath your body and mind are regularly tell you to address the emotional pain and suffering you have buried long ago. Listen.
Are relationships difficult for you, or tough to sustain? Do you isolate yourself to avoid getting hurt? Or do you often find your engaging with unemotional, distant, unavailable people – physically (long distance), emotionally, mentally or worse still emotionally available.
Are you tired of living on the edge? In the survival mode? Fearful of getting triggered or getting hurt? Are you tired of running away from yourself?
Have You Taken Your ACE score?
According to the Adverse Childhood Experiences — ACE — study, the rougher your childhood, the higher your score is likely to be and the higher your risk for various health problems later. More here (CDC)
Take the following ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Quiz: Click here
If left unhealed, the trauma can travel to the next generation through a process called Transgenerational epigenetic inheritance, in Healing it is also known as Transgenerational Trauma.
Do you have one or more of following PTSD or C-PTSD symptoms?
Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Headache, Sleep disorders, Digestive issues, Skin and Bones issues, Blood disorders, Sinus and Respiratory issues, Chronic pain or Auto immune illnesses.
Mental Symptoms :
Mental Fog, Indecisive. Feeling fixated, even Obsessive. Depression, suicidal, lack of creativity, enthusiasm, Partially feeling lost and confused, – identify crisis – over identification with one part of life job/ career, profession or a relationship,
Direction less, inability to make choice or clear and firm choices,Lack of vision or holistic and balanced vision of life.
Emotional dysregulation, Anger, rage. Shame, Guilt. Feeling Unworthy, Social anxiety, Need for approval, Fawning- People pleaser, Perfectionist, Workaholic, Emotional perfectionist, Too logical or numb, Self sabotaging, Victim mindset, Self- sacrificing, Co-dependent Relationships. Addictions, Sell out, Clown (Facade), Peter Pan – incomplete childhood development stage, Ungrounded – Flaky, illusions of Grandeur, Too New agey, Repeated triggers in intimate relationship or feelings of shame, guilt or failure about the trauma.
Irrational or Unhealthy beliefs or fears, Negative Self belief, Weak Boundaries, unable to express No, easy to bully, manipulate emotional and intellectually, Unable to Be who you really want to be at the moment – inauthentic and much more.
This list is by no means exhaustive or indicative of PTSD ( Post-traumatic stress disorder) or C-PTSD (Complex post-traumatic stress disorder), consult a medical health professional before self-diagnosing.
What Fear and Anxiety Does to You?
Today, Neuroscience research informs us that Fear centre in the Brain of all primates is the Amygdala. It in fact comprises of two almond-shaped clusters of neurons, which are part of our limbic system, which amongst many other things, manages our long-term memory, behavioural and emotional responses. In short, it is home to our emotional life and our Autonomic Nervous System (ANS). The primary role of Amygdala is processing of memory, decision making, and emotional responses, like fear, anxiety, and aggression. From here comes our Flight-or-Fight responses, as we prepare to respond to a danger, actual or perceived. It is a part of our Sympathetic Nervous system. When it is activate via hormones and neuro transmitters, our heart rate jumps, muscles get activated and pumped up to ready for action!
But when all the adrenaline and other hormones are not put into action, when there is suppression or inaction, it would feel as anxiety. Low grade anxiety is when we about to prepare for an event or test. this can be generalised anxiety or social anxiety. But when it is too for our nervous system to handle, this can be mentally or physically paralyzing as there is an overload – the Freeze response. This can lead to a panic attack, the freezing of brain, nervous system and muscles, and other PTSD/C-PTSD symptoms like Cognitive Dissonance, Triggers, Rationalization and Confirmation bias.
When the event has passed that is when the brain releases a neuro transmitter called GABA. It calms the mind, by soothing or slowing down the communication between neuro receptors and nervous system slows down. Back to homeostasis!
This Parasymathetic Nervous System comprises of 4 cranial nerves and the vagus nerve which infact makes up about 75% overall, connecting to your heart, lungs and other vital internal organs.
GABA reduces communication between brain cells and thus acts like a depressant or downer. But sometimes, the system is unable to reset and come back to normal! Prolonged exposure to stress and fear in war zone, or a chaotic /abusive household. This further leads to maladaptive, or dysfunctional behaviours, taken in survival mode. But then how to get out of it? What detox tools and self soothing resources we can build on for a lasting effect. Hypnotherapy is one such valuable tool. As it combines Breathwork, Somatic Release and Subconscious Healing Work, amongst other tools.
Hypnotherapy creates an induced state of both mental and physical relaxation which can recalibrate the nervous system gradually. Bringing it to state of ease from a state of hyper vigilance and aggravation. It is possible to heal, by calming the nerves regularly. We can retrain, restore out brain, nervous system and mind to a state of greater ease and yes peace.
For deeper work in dealing with our complex or dysfunctional sub personalities and inner conflicts, Hypnotherapy offers tools like Parts Therapy, Inner Child Healing and Shadow Work.
Ever wondered how will you ever release all the pent-up emotions and feeling you have from childhood, troubled relationships or traumatic experiences? Having spent years in counselling, talking about it, journaling about it, and yet there is more. You are done, bored and tired ruminating and dwelling in the past.
When unreleased, these pent-up emotions in time create psycho-somatic disorders, irrational triggers, and further on physical ailments. So it is important to regularly detox our emotional system, (just like physical detox) before it overwhelms you and start to impede you day-to-day functioning. Take action now!
Emotional Detox is a wonderful, simple yet powerful method to directly access the Subconscious mind, where all our negative emotions are stored. Thus with the help of your powerful subconscious mind via hypnosis, we can release all the stress, pain, trauma, shame, hurt, you have been storing and holding on to.
Somatic Release Therapy
What we don’t feel or heal our body and mind reveal the pain and suffering. Listen what is body trying to tell you, where does it need healing, care or concern.
There is so much Research and Scientific data available about the Mind-Body connection that now we cannot refute it and numb out. We no longer stand a chance of long term healing or recovery, it will continue to believe that what I do or say, and more importantly think now, does not affect my body. It does.
Healing work is difficult, and inner work is even more. That is why so many of us waste so many years, waiting for it to all go suddenly, succumbing to self-pity and despair till it wrecks our body, mind, career and yes relationships.
Letting go is our job. Past we can’t change agreed, but what happens next lies fully in our hands, in the choices we make today. Make one good choice today. That is self care.
As we go further with Emotional Detox, we also do Somatic Release Therapy for the Trauma stored in various body parts, where unprocessed and unconscious trauma leads to various physical, emotional, behavioural and mental health issues. This technique may involve Somatic mapping, inquiry and Release. Reintegrating the wounded parts, and helping the brain switching of the trigger mechanism of hyper-vigilance.
Thereafter it is an on-going practice with Mindfulness, Breath Work, Self-Nurturing and Reparenting. This is where other tools like Inner Child Healing and Parts Therapy may come in. Finally, this would lead to Shadow Work, where we discover, accept and healing the parts of of your personality as a survival mechanism, or maladaptation, where you were powerless.
If you feel you are ready to LET GO it all and give yourself a fresh start – this technique is perfect for you!
Mental Detox: Clearing out all extraneous data, files, information and memories you have been holding on to. Memories your cling to, weigh you down. Ready to let go?
The past is over. But only when we let it go.
Memories we cling to, weigh us down. Memories that are sad, often traumatic, troubling even horrifying. Memories that delivered are important life lessons to us. But now the messenger has done the job, best to let him go, falling in love with the messenger is of no use. Smart thing would be to just keep the lesson, the life wisdom gained. Best to carry that forward into the future.
We have to stop ‘processing’ wounds at some point, and drop it! Stop finding meaning and purpose in them, after a point becomes unhealthy and self-indulgent. They make our mind overloaded and mental processor slow down, like a computer with too many unnecessary and old files, videos or pictures. What if there was a way to let go those unwanted and haunting memories, and keep happy, joyous and inspiring ones? Simply put, trash old clothes we longer wear or need, so we have ample space new ones.
It is time to clear your inner mental clutter, that constant chatter or ruminating. Make space for the new. Ready to give yourself a fresh start? – Then this technique is right for you!
“The more you talk about it, rehash it, rethink it, cross analyze it, debate it, respond to it, get paranoid about it, compete with it, complain about it, immortalize it, cry over it, kick it, defame it, stalk it, gossip about it, pray over it, put it down or dissect its motives it continues to rot in your brain. It is dead. It is over. It is gone. It is done. It is time to bury it because it is smelling up your life and no one wants to be near your rotted corpse of memories and decaying attitude. Be the funeral director of your life and bury that thing!”
― Shannon L. Alder
Mental Detox clears out all extraneous data, files, information and memories you have been holding on to for years and probably decades. Where is all this information lodged? You are right in the Subconscious Mind. That is why, hypnosis is best way to access and clear them, like an old library, books you don’t want to read any more. However, it would work, only if you are willing to let go! If you still are attached to your old stories of victimhood, or injustice, you will activate them back again. Wait.
If you feel you are ready to LET GO all of it, we are here to help you.
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“Maybe if you carried bad memories around long enough,
they started to change how you walked, how you talked. How you thought.”
― Julia Keller
Inner Child Healing: Further on, to empower your Emotional Self, or the Inner Child from debilitating early life experiences and reprogramming deep-seated subconscious behavioral patterns, go for Inner Child Healing. Read here
Parts Therapy for inner conflict resolution: When you feel there are two conflicting sub personalities in you, which are fighting with each other, or sabotaging each other. Read here
Shadow Work, to understand and heal, how your dark side or our wounded side keeps running your life, and you keep repeating patterns, meeting same kind of people and situations in life. Read here
Past Life Regression: What if the dysfunctional patterns in your unconscious mind and karmic life blocks are coming from another lifetime? Lifetimes of Trauma, Wars, Accidents and tragedies, stored in the Unconscious Mind, just as current life traumas are stored in the Subconscious. Imprints and Triggers we are carrying forward from unhealed past, just as fear of flying, phobias like fear of darkness, heights or closed spaces, are very common and often find relief through Past life Regression Therapy or simply PLR. Read here.
Golden rules for long term recovery
- Slow down. Avoid multi-tasking and over achieving. In the long run you will achieve more this way. Nothing is as important as it seems, so relax. Allow solutions to emerge.
- Overthinking, is not a good idea, if you are prone to worrying, procrastination or overplanning. Living one day a time is also fine.
- Most of all, never rush yourself. Keep ample time for each task at hand. Have realistic goals. If you are always stuck in time crunch you are over burdened or over scheduled. Be easy with yourself. Retire your inner hardtask master, your inner Critical self.
Workaholism is a stepping stone to deteriorating our mental and physical health.
Just as you are not your thoughts. You are also not your emotions, which are energy in motion(e-motion) in the first place, allow them to pass, let go. Breathe out!
Mindfulness meditation or MBSR can be an asset when you want to develop resources for a better functional life.
Start a regular exercise routine at least 3-4 times a week. It can be slow walk as well and build up from there. Over time you will start feeling the difference as the happy hormones like dopamine build up in your body. Plus engage in fun group activities like Yoga, Zumba, Cycling, pilates. Make sure you do whatever you enjoy because that is what will help you sustain the activity, for a long time, to see viable difference. Physical training like weight training and cardiovascular exercises will regularly de stress you and build muscle strength and stamina. Progressive stamina increase and small wins in your exercise routine will help improve self belief and confidence. This in turn will you handle stresses of daily life better and remain self motivated. There is nothing like being your own best champion. Physical fitness improves mental agility in many ways.
Learn and Practice self-soothing techniques daily, build on them so you can use them, when you really need them. Simple mindful breathing, Counting 1 to 10 slowly is excellent or reverse counting (Pattern Interrupt). Then Body scan and hugging oneself are great tools to somatically access and release the anxious energy. Hypnotherapy would teach you some quick techniques.(We have many relaxation meditations on our YouTube channel, try some)
Let go of micro managing and yes perfectionism. Things have a way of working out. You have really nothing to prove.
Trust your instincts, your intuition. If something feels like a bad idea, it usually is. Red flags🚩 are called so for a reason. Listen.
Choose Peace, over being right. Righteous anger, irritation is a big trap, avoid by all means, it is not worth it.
As they say in AA: During recovery..Never Forget the Danger of HALT. So never stay Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, we can one more Sad for long. Do something about it. Talk to a friend or mentor. Learn tools to regulate your lifestyle and emotions. As they can cause relapse.
Learn to ask for help, you are not as alone if you do so.
If it gets too much, remember the Serenity Prayer: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference, living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; taking this world as it is and not as I would have it..”
Let go and Let God. If you allow, there is a Higher power, which can help us.
Take small breaks through your working day. Micro breaks from 30 secs to 2 min. Count 10 slow and deep breaths. Start again.
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